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Jan 23

If You Want To Be Poor & Unhappy Think With An External Locus Of Control

 


 There are two types of thought in the world – those who think with an internal locus of control and those who have an external one. Don’t know the difference? Then read on.


Your Locus Of Control

Internals know that they control their destiny; they believe in willpower and positive thinking. They are determined to control their own life, and accept that what happens to them is because of their actions.

Externals believe that they are the victims of circumstances and fate. If they go to bed drunk and with a lit cigarette which causes their house to burn down, well that is just an example of their bad luck, not their poor decisions and bad habits.

Having an internal locus of control is the one to have if you want to live a life that makes you happy because with it you will overcome negative circumstances.

Take charge of your life

You need to realize that you are the only one responsible to obtain the life you wish to have. There is no one else that cares about your life goals as much as you do. You need to go out and get what you want from the tree of life.

Crap will happen. You might lose your job. A person close to you might die. You might get sick. Bad things will happen, but wallowing in these thoughts is just wasting time.

Do what it takes to find a solution to the problem. Mourn their passing, but celebrate their life and realize that you shouldn’t waste yours.

The same thing goes with people you think are more fortunate. If someone was born with a silver spoon in their mouth and you weren’t, it makes no difference in your life. It will do you no good to be miserable or jealous of it, work to get to where you want to be.

It is an overwhelmingly strong way to live your life.

If you are a free person living in a free country, you can control basically everything in your life.

If you are in an abusive relationship, leave.

If you want to be strong, lift weights.

If you want to earn more money, go and do it.

Stop making excuses

I know what you are thinking, “It’s not as easy as just saying the words.”

If something is easy, everyone would have it. Life is not supposed to just be easy without working hard first. Human beings do not greatly value what they haven’t work for.

There is an old saying that the self-help gurus love to tell people.

“We change our behavior when the pain of staying the same becomes greater than the pain of changing.”

If you don’t like something in your life, change it. Otherwise be content with it. There is no other successful way to deal with it.

Wallowing in your bad situation is just pooping in your cheerios. It only makes the situation worse.

Change

You can be a better person. You can have a better life. It is not easy, but oh so worth it.

It takes time, but you know what? The best things do.

If you want this for yourself you need to be out there planting seeds that you can harvest years from now.

These things do not grow up overnight, but they do grow imperceptibly each day. Always keep your goal in mind and work towards it every day. Slowly your efforts will build upon the previous and grow something great.

A plant will grow out of a tiny crack. A tree will grow out of the side of a cliff. The seed landed where it did and even though it wasn’t in the perfect situation, it refused to give up! It doesn’t matter where you are in life, your seeds can grow with your effort.

If you are wasting your life, if you are not planting seeds for tomorrow, you need to get with it. Nobody else is going to plant your seeds for you, so get up and go do it. If this is the first time in your life that you are doing so it might be scary, but know that this is how you get the life you want.

The worst thing that can happen is that your newly planet seed doesn’t grow that time. Learn what you did wrong and try again.

Start thinking with an internal locus of control.

Failures are only the people that stopped planting.


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2 comments

  1. Tony

    I couldn’t agree more. What a better narrative to tell yourself about your life. This quote especially resonated with me as did the whole article. Rock on Brother “If you don’t like something in your life, change it. Otherwise be content with it. There is no other successful way to deal with it.”

    1. MrDD

      Thanks, Tony. I would think anyone that has improved their situation in life can agree with what I wrote here. I have improved my life in different areas, the most current being a focus on the financial. Mt first area of improvement was in relationships, probably a decade ago now. I used to not know how to get a girl to like me, now I am married so I guess I improved enough – lol! There are some areas of my life that others would think negative, but I am content with it in my way of thinking. So I am happy. 😀

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